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| 1. When I become angry or upset I say things that I ought not to. |
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| 2. When my partner becomes angry or upset, he/she discusses the issue in a calm, nonargumentative fashion. |
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| 3. My partner holds my hand. |
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| 4. My partner has given me a kiss even though he/she didn't feel any passion or loving feelings. |
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| 5. My inability to pay close attention to my partner has interfered with our relationship. |
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| 6. My partner can tell that I listen to him/her in a loving and compassionate way |
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| 7. My partner's inability to understand me has interfered with our relationship. |
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| 8. I know that my partner may say or do something that is hurtful, but I realize he/she isn't doing it purposely. |
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| 9. When my partner becomes angry or upset he/she says things that he/she ought not to. |
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| 10. I hold in my emotions until I explode and say things I ought not to. |
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| 11. I talk about almost anything with my partner. |
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| 12. My partner has threatened to kill me. |
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| 13. Because I am eight feet tall I am a good listener. |
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| 14. I use punitive words to get my point across (i.e., you are stupid). |
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| 15. When I become angry or upset, I discuss the issue in a calm, nonargumentative fashion. |
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| 16. I try to dress nicely so that I can be attractive for my partner. |
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| 17. I find it difficult to be angry with my partner for a long period of time because he/she talks to me in a way that is soothing and comforting. |
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| 18. My partner drinks or uses drugs to where it affects or interferes with our relationship in a negative way. |
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| 19. I do not like arguments and tend to shut down and not communicate verbally. |
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| 20. I kiss my partner. |
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| 21. The time my partner spends at work or with other extracurricular activities has interfered with his/her relationship with me. |
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| 22. I will do anything for my partner. |
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| 23. My partner has positive feelings toward me. I know that he/she has these positive feelings by the way he/she physically touches me. |
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| 24. During an argument, I hold my partner's hand to let him/her know I care. |
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| 25. There are things that I say that interfere with our relationship even though I don't mean to. |
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| 26. My partner identifies and verbalizes his/her feelings to me. |
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| 27. My partner touches me in a loving manner (sexually). |
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| 28. I have many ways of showing my love to my partner. |
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| 29. When I don't want to listen to my partner any more, I become frustrated and leave the house for a couple of hours, days or more. |
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| 30. I pay attention to my partner's needs because I care. |
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| 31. I do not pay attention to what my partner is feeling. |
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| 32. My partner correctly reads my body language. |
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| 33. I think my partner means to harm me at times, but at a deeper level, I know that is not true. |
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| 34. I give my partner space when he/she needs it. |
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| 35. My partner has trouble verbalizing his/her thoughts. |
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| 36. I accurately and clearly tell my partner my needs. |
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| 37. I kiss my partner in a passionate way. |
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| 38. My partner likes to touch me. |
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| 39. When my partner doesn't understand my thought or point of view, he/she asks for clarification or an example. |
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| 40. I talk to my partner in another language that I learned from Mars. |
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| 41. My partner has called me a "bitch," "bastard" or other similar offensive name. |
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| 42. When I become angry or sad, I talk to my partner in a non-threatening manner. |
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| 43. My partner pays attention to my body language. |
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| 44. I am nervous around my partner for no apparent reason. |
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| 45. My partner makes me cry or feel bad by the way he/she says things. |
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| 46. Even though I do nothing all that wrong, my partner still feels annoyed with me. |
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| 47. I don't always pay attention, but I try and mean well. |
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| 48. My partner's loving tone of voice allows me to feel relaxed so that I feel like I can tell him/her almost anything. |
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| 49. I have a sense of humor when I speak to my partner. |
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| 50. I pay attention and am aware of my partner's mood changes. |
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| 51. I refrain from outside distractions (i.e., TV, radio, other) when talking about an important topic with my partner. |
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| 52. I misinterpret the meaning behind my partner's actions. |
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| 53. My partner understands my point of view. |
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| 54. My partner can tell that I am feeling sad by the tone of my voice. |
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| 55. I talk about my life with my partner. He/She is aware of my daily activities. |
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| 56. When my partner is angry or hurt, he/she will yell and scream to where it is frightful to me. |
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| 57. I make my partner cry or feel bad by the way I say things. |
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| 58. My inability to understand my partner's feelings has interfered with our relationship. |
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| 59. I do not understand why my partner is annoyed, hurt or angry. |
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| 60. I have threatened to kill my partner. |
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| 61. My partner likes to talk to me because of the joy he/she feels when he/she speaks to me. |
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| 62. I have raised my hand to hit my partner, but have never followed through. |
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| 63. My partner has negative feelings towards me which he/she shows by ignoring me. |
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| 64. I think my partner is angry or hurt, but he/she tells me that it is not true. |
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| 65. I verbally express appreciation for my partner. |
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| 66. I talk to my partner in a way that is kind. |
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| 67. I hold my partner's hand. |
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| 68. I have had an affair. |
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| 69. My partner picks or buys flowers for me. |
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| 70. I do not pay attention to my partner's feelings. |
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| 71. I understand my partner. |
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| 72. I am not good at interpreting my partner's exact emotions. |
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| 73. I think everyone in the entire world including my partner is out to harm or make fun of me. |
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| 74. When in an argument with me, my partner can't seem to lower his/her tone of voice. |
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| 75. My loving tone of voice allows my partner to feel relaxed so that he/she feels like he/she can tell me almost anything. |
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| 76. I have hit my partner. |
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| 77. When I am angry, I have sex with my partner in a violent manner. |
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| 78. I smile at my partner. |
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| 79. My partner loves listening to me. |
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| 80. I feel annoyed with my partner, even though he/she does not do anything all that wrong. |
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| 81. My partner doesn't care if I am hurt or not. |
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| 82. When I get mad, I tell my partner to "go to hell" or other such similar phrase. |
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| 83. I say negative things about my partner's family or friends that are hurtful to him/her. |
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| 84. My partner has threatened to leave the marriage or relationship. |
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| 85. I have trouble telling my partner my feelings. |
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| 86. My partner has told me that he/she loved me, but inside I knew that he/she really was not feeling that emotion. |
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| 87. When my partner is in an argument with me, he/she raises his/her voice. |
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| 88. When my partner tries to verbally communicate his/her loving feelings to me, I don't feel like he/she is saying the words with passion. |
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| 89. I show signs of appreciation for my partner. |
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| 90. When I am hurt, I feel like my partner's loving energy draws me in close to him/her and I feel safe. |
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| 91. When my partner doesn't agree with what I have to say, I don't feel supported. |
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| 92. I know my partner means well. I don't take what he/she says to heart when he/she says or does something wrong. |
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| 93. My partner is correct in identifying my feelings. |
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| 94. I have threatened to hit my partner. |
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| 95. The words that I use to communicate to my partner hurt him/her even though I don't mean it. |
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| 96. My partner is not a good listener. |
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| 97. My partner knows when I am hurt. He/She listens with all of his/her heart. |
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| 98. Sometimes I think my partner does not love me. I know that I am being silly and it is not true. |
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| 99. I like to swing my partner by his/her feet. |
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| 100. When I am angry or hurt, I yell and scream to where it is frightful to my partner. |
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| 101. I use sarcastic words just to prove a point. |
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| 102. During an argument my partner says things sarcastically. |
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| 103. My partner does not understand why I am annoyed, hurt or angry. |
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| 104. I don't know what to make of my partner's feelings. |
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| 105. I get hurt easily because I take things literally. |
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| 106. I think I understand the meaning behind my partner's behavior, but I am often wrong. |
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| 107. I have called my partner a "bitch," "bastard" or other such similar offensive name. |
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| 108. I am a good listener because I can pick up on what my partner is trying to convey. |
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| 109. When I become angry or hurt I walk away and go into another room or leave the house. |
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| 110. My partner has good feelings just being next to me. We don't even have to be doing anything interactive. |
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| 111. I have pushed my partner. |
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| 112. My partner does not have strong feelings of love when we have sex. |
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| 113. My partner tries to pay attention to what I am trying to convey. |
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| 114. I hate listening to my partner. |
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| 115. I interpret my partner's emotions accurately. |
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| 116. I can tell that my partner is feeling sad by the tone of his/her voice. |
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| 117. I think my partner and his/her friends are FBI agents and are out to get me. |
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| 118. I tell the truth and do not lie to my partner. |
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| 119. When my partner talks to me, he/she uses a sarcastic tone of voice. |
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| 120. My partner finds it difficult to be angry with me for a long period of time because I talk to him/her in a way that is soothing and comforting. |
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| 121. I have a nonthreatening voice. |
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| 122. Because he/she cares, my partner touches me so that I know that he/she is paying full attention to what I am saying. |
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| 123. There are things that I do that interfere with our relationship even though I don't mean to. |
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| 124. My partner tries hard to do the right thing. |
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| 125. My partner thinks I mean to harm him/her at times, but at a deeper level, he/she knows that is not true. |
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| 126. My partner doesn't know what to make of my behavior. |
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| 127. When my partner is around me, he/she has an irritated look on his/her face. |
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| 128. My partner will do anything for me. |
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| 129. I throw objects as a way of showing my anger. |
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| 130. I have conversations with my partner. |
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| 131. My partner accurately and clearly tells me his/her needs. |
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| 132. My partner thinks I am angry or hurt, but I tell him/her that it is not true. |
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| 133. When my partner is hurt, he/she feels like my loving energy draws him/her in close to me and he/she feels safe. |
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| 134. When my partner is distraught over something, I am there to comfort and hold him/her. |
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| 135. My partner holds in his/her emotions until he/she explodes and says things he/she ought not to. |
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| 136. I have trouble telling my partner what I am feeling without using words that are hurtful or cruel. |
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| 137. My partner tells me that he/she loves me. |
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| 138. When I don't understand my partner's thought or point of view, I ask for clarification or an example. |
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| 139. I have been hospitalized before because of my partner's physical abuse towards me. |
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| 140. My partner does things that he/she ought not to. |
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| 141. There are things I do even though I know my partner does not like it. |
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| 142. My partner becomes frustrated with me and does things that are not nice. |
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| 143. I plan activities for my partner and me so that we can have fun together. |
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| 144. I articulate my needs clearly and accurately. |
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| 145. My partner uses sarcastic words just to prove a point. |
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| 146. My partner tells me that I am beautiful or handsome. |
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| 147. I have a bizarre way of looking at the world. |
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| 148. My partner knows that I hate him/her. He/She can tell by my actions. |
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| 149. I have given my partner a kiss even though I didn't feel any passion or loving feelings. |
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| 150. I find it hard to be with my partner in an argument because he/she gets so angry or frustrated. I can tell by his/her body language. |
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| 151. I have fun doing activities with my partner (i.e., hiking, swimming, watching a movie). |
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| 152. My partner uses good eye contact when I tell him/her something. |
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| 153. I always misinterpret my partner's feelings. |
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| 154. When my partner gets mad, he/she tells me to "go to hell" or any other similar phrase. |
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| 155. I have called the police on my partner for physical domestic violence. |
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| 156. I am affectionate. |
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| 157. My partner is attentive when an important and sensitive issue needs to be |
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| 158. When in an argument, my partner correctly confirms what I have said. |
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| 159. When I become angry I am still able to say words that are not harmful. |
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| 160. When my partner has something he/she needs to say, he/she says it freely. |
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| 161. My partner nods his/her head or gives a verbal reassurance (uh-huh) to show me that he/she is paying attention. |
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| 162. When my partner holds my hand, I know that he/she loves me by the warmth that is conveyed. |
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| 163. The softness of my voice when I speak lets my partner know that I care for him/her. |
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| 164. My partner has a sense of humor when he/she speaks to me. |
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| 165. I get bored with what my partner is trying to convey. |
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| 166. I have used weapons during an argument with my partner. |
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| 167. I love to touch my partner in affectionate and loving ways. |
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| 168. My partner kisses me in a passionate way. |
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| 169. I touch my partner in a loving manner (nonsexual). |
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| 170. When my partner doesn't want to listen to me any more, he/she becomes frustrated and leaves the house for a couple of hours, days or more. |
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| 171. My partner finds it hard to listen to me in an argument because I get so angry or frustrated. He/She can tell by the tone of my voice. |
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| 172. I cannot make sense of anything my partner says. |
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| 173. When I communicate to my partner verbally, I don't feel like I am saying the words with sincerity. |
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| 174. If my partner is not sure what I am trying to say, he/she becomes frustrated. |
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| 175. It is difficult for me to pay attention to my partner for a long time. |
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| 176. I am aware and attend to my partner's mood changes and try to console him/her by being there for him/her. |
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| 177. My partner knows that I may say or do something that is hurtful, but he/she realizes that I am not doing it purposely. |
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| 178. My partner is not good at interpreting my exact emotions. |
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| 179. I say things in an angry tone of voice, even though I know I shouldn't be so angry. |
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| 180. There are things that my partner says that interferes with our relationship even though he/she doesn't mean to. |
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| 181. I have threatened to leave the marriage or relationship. |
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| 182. My partner tells me things that will enhance my self-esteem. |
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| 183. When my partner gives me flowers or a special gift, I am filled with love and joy. |
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| 184. My partner likes to smile at me because he/she knows it makes me feel good. |
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| 185. When I am talking and the television is on, my partner attends to the television rather than to what I am saying. |
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| 186. My partner doesn't care what I do with my life. |
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| 187. I listen to what my partner has to say. |
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| 188. My partner talks to me in a way that is kind. |
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| 189. I try to pay attention to what my partner is trying to convey. |
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| 190. My partner refrains from outside distractions (i.e., TV, radio, other) when talking about an important topic with me. |
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| 191. When I am angry, I can't hear a word my partner is saying. |
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| 192. When I am angry and cannot talk calmly I will recommend that the issue be dealt with after I have calmed down. |
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| 193. Even when my partner says the right things, he/she says it in a way that is not sincere. |
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| 194. Sometimes my partner thinks I do not love him/her. He/She knows he/she is being silly and it is not true. |
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| 195. My partner always misinterprets my feelings. |
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| 196. I have good quality time talking about my day with my partner. |
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| 197. I find it hard to listen to what my partner has to say in an argument because he/she gets so angry or frustrated. I can tell by the tone of his/her voice. |
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| 198. My partner has threatened to hit me. |
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| 199. I listen to my partner full heartedly. |
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| 200. My partner has the capacity to pay attention to my feelings even when I am angry. |
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| 201. My partner likes to go out with me on special occasions. |
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| 202. My partner knows I mean well, but for some reason he/she still becomes hurt. |
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| 203. Even though my partner may disagree with what I am saying, he/she is still able to listen without interrupting. |
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| 204. I know that my partner is available and that I can tell him/her anything. |
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| 205. My partner does not pay attention to what I am feeling. |
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| 206. My partner finds it hard to listen to me when he/she is angry. He/She focuses on his/her own feelings. |
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| 207. I groom myself appropriately. |
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| 208. When I am around my partner, I have an irritated look on my face. |
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| 209. I pay attention to my partner's body language. |
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| 210. My partner loves talking to me. |
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| 211. I do not like to argue and will not talk to my partner during a disagreement. |
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| 212. There are things that my partner does that interferes with our relationship even though he/she doesn't mean to. |
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| 213. My partner tries to dress nicely so that he/she can be attractive for me. |
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| 214. My partner is observant and knows when I am feeling good and bad. |
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| 215. When my partner is angry, he/she has sex with me in a violent manner. |
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| 216. I do not have strong feelings of love when my partner and I have sex. |
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| 217. I have tried to harm myself. |
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| 218. When my partner becomes angry or upset, he/she holds it in until he/she explodes. |
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| 219. My partner grooms him/herself appropriately. |
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| 220. I am genuinely interested in what my partner has to say or do. |
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| 221. My partner gives me space when I need it. |
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| 222. My partner hugs me, but it doesn't mean much to him/her since he/she is so hurt by me. |
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| 223. I try hard to do the right thing. |
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| 224. My partner's inability to pay close attention to me has interfered with our relationship. |
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| 225. When in an argument, I correctly confirm what my partner has said. |
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| 226. My partner is actively and genuinely open to hear new ideas from me. |
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| 227. I give feedback to my partner on what he/she has said. |
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| 228. My partner has thought about injuring me. |
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| 229. I know exactly what my partner means when he/she is trying to make an important point. |
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| 230. I have trouble talking about my daily events with my partner. |
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| 231. My partner doesn't always pay attention, but he/she tries and means well. |
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| 232. I drink or use drugs to where it affects or interferes with our relationship in a negative way. |
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| 233. My partner smiles at me. |
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| 234. My partner goes the extra mile for me and does things for me that he/she doesn't ordinarily do. |
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| 235. My partner pays close attention to my needs. |
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| 236. My partner uses touch to communicate his/her affectionate feelings towards me. |
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| 237. I am correct in identifying my partner's feelings. |
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| 238. I give hugs and hold my partner. |
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| 239. I have positive feelings such as happiness, contentment and love towards my partner. |
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| 240. My partner interrupts what I am saying during an argument so that he/she can get his/her point of view across. |
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| 241. My partner is a good listener because he/she observes my body language as well as listens to what I say. |
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| 242. My partner makes me laugh or feel good by the things that he/she says. |
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| 243. When upset with my partner, I try to pretend that everything is O.K., but it is easy to see that I am hurt by the sound of my voice. |
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| 244. My partner gives constructive feedback to me because he/she cares. |
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| 245. My lack of sympathy in wanting to listen or pay attention to my partner has interfered with our relationship. |
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| 246. My partner has a bizarre way of looking at the world. |
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| 247. Even though I have done something quite harmless, my partner becomes angry with me and says things that he/she shouldn't. |
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| 248. If I am not sure what my partner is trying to say, I become frustrated. |
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| 249. My partner knows I mean well. He/She doesn't take what I say to heart when I say or do something wrong. |
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| 250. I like to touch my partner. |
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| 251. My partner has had an affair. |
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| 252. I pick or buy flowers for my partner. |
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| 253. I enjoy being close to my partner. |
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| 254. My partner has negative feelings such as sadness, anger or frustration towards me. |
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| 255. When I talk to my partner, I use a sarcastic tone of voice. |
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| 256. I like to hear what my partner has to say. |
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| 257. I am better than my partner because I have special powers. |
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| 258. When my partner speaks to me, I give him/her my full attention. |
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| 259. My partner knows that I am available and that he/she can tell me anything. |
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| 260. My partner attends to what I say verbally and to my body language. |
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| 261. I touch my partner in a loving manner (sexually). |
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| 262. I like to smile at my partner because I know it makes him/her feel good. |
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| 263. When I don't agree with what my partner has to say, he/she doesn't feel supported. |
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| 264. My partner is nervous around me for no apparent reason. |
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| 265. My partner misinterprets the meaning behind my actions. |
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| 266. My partner throws objects as a way of showing his/her anger. |
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| 267. There are things that my partner does even though I do not like it. |
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| 268. I love listening to my partner. |
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| 269. My partner understands me. |
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| 270. My partner gives me passionate kisses. |
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| 271. I have negative feelings towards my partner which I show by ignoring him/her. |
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| 272. My inability to understand my partner has interfered with our relationship. |
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| 273. My partner gets hurt easily because he/she takes things literally. |
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| 274. My partner is a good listener because he/she can pick up on what I am trying to convey. |
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| 275. I don't care if my partner is hurt or not. |
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| 276. The time that I spend at work or with other extracurricular activities has interfered with my relationship with my partner. |
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| 277. My partner writes special notes, letters or gives cards to show his/her love. |
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| 278. My partner has raised his/her hand to hit me, but has never followed through. |
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| 279. My partner uses punitive words to get his/her point across (i.e., you are stupid). |
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| 280. My partner cannot make sense of anything I say. |
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| 281. My partner loves to touch me in affectionate and loving ways. |
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| 282. During an argument, my partner holds my hand to let me know he/she cares. |
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| 283. When my partner is angry, he/she can't hear a word that I am saying. |
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| 284. I know that my partner hates me. I can tell by his/her actions. |
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| 285. My partner has been hospitalized before because of my physical abuse toward him/her. |
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| 286. I do things that I ought not to. |
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| 287. My partner kisses me. |
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| 288. I go the extra mile for my partner and do things for him/her that I don't ordinarily do. |
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| 289. My partner hates listening to me. |
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| 290. It doesn't bother my partner when I am feeling sad. |
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| 291. My partner is aware and attends to my mood changes and tries to console me by being there for me. |
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| 292. I am attentive when an important and sensitive issue needs to be discussed with my partner. |
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| 293. My partner talks about almost anything with me. |
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| 294. My partner has trouble telling me what he/she is feeling without using words that are hurtful or cruel. |
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| 295. My partner pays attention and is aware of my mood changes. |
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| 296. My partner has fun doing activities with me (i.e., hiking, swimming, watching a movie). |
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| 297. I tell my partner that I love him/her. |
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| 298. My partner has good quality time talking about his/her day with me. |
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| 299. I nod my head or give a verbal reassurance (uh-huh) to show my partner that I am paying attention. |
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| 300. When I speak to my partner, he/she gives me his/her full attention. |
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| 301. My partner is genuinely interested in what I say or do. |
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| 302. The words that my partner uses to communicate to me hurts even though he/she doesn't mean it. |
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| 303. My partner has pushed me. |
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| 304. I am not a good listener. |
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| 305. I tell my partner that he/she is beautiful or handsome. |
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| 306. My partner talks about his/her life with me. I am aware of his/her daily activities. |
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| 307. My partner articulates his/her needs clearly and accurately. |
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| 308. My partner verbally expresses appreciation for me. |
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| 309. My partner has trouble telling me his/her feelings. |
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| 310. I am observant and know when my partner is feeling good and bad. |
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| 311. When I have something that I need to tell my partner, I say it freely. |
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| 312. I am a good listener because I observe my partner's body language as well as listen to what he/she says. |
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| 313. My partner says negative things about my family or friends that are hurtful to me. |
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| 314. My partner shows signs of appreciation for me. |
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| 315. The things that I do interfere with our relationship, even though I don't mean them to. |
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| 316. When I hold my partner's hand, he/she knows that I love him/her by the warmth that is conveyed. |
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| 317. I love talking to my partner. |
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| 318. Even though my partner has done something quite harmless, I become angry with him/her and say things that I shouldn't. |
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| 319. When my partner becomes angry or sad, he/she talks to me in a non- threatening manner. |
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| 320. I have told my partner that I loved him/her, but inside I knew that I was not really feeling that emotion. |
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| 321. My partner says things in an angry tone of voice, even though he/she knows he/she shouldn't be so angry. |
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| 322. My partner gets bored with what I am trying to convey. |
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| 323. My partner does not like to argue and tends to shut down and not communicate verbally. |
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| 324. My partner has called the police on me for physical domestic violence. |
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| 325. My partner has tried to harm him/herself. |
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| 326. When I become angry or upset, I hold it in until I explode. |
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| 327. I have negative feelings such as sadness, anger or frustration towards my partner. |
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| 328. I have positive feelings toward my partner. He/She knows that I have these positive feelings by the way I physically touch him/her. |
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| 329. I use touch to communicate my affectionate feelings towards my partner. |
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| 330. My partner does not pay attention to what I am feeling. |
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| 331. I become frustrated with my partner and do things that are not nice. |
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| 332. My partner tells the truth and does not lie to me. |
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| 333. When my partner becomes angry or hurt he/she walks away and goes into another room or leaves the house. |
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| 334. I know when my partner is hurt. I listen to him/her with all of my heart. |
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| 335. Because I care, I touch my partner so that he/she knows that I am paying full attention to what he/she is saying. |
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| 336. I correctly read my partner's body language. |
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| 337. I don't know what to make of my partner's behavior. |
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| 338. My partner has used weapons during an argument with me. |
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| 339. I like to go out with my partner on special occasions. |
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| 340. My partner finds it hard to be with me in an argument because I get so angry or frustrated. He/She can tell by my body language. |
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| 341. When I try to verbally communicate my loving feelings to my partner, I don't feel like I am saying the words with passion. |
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| 342. My partner has trouble talking about his/her daily events with me. |
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| 343. When my partner is angry and cannot talk calmly he/she will recommend that the issue be dealt with after he/she has calmed down. |
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| 344. My partner's inability to understand my feelings has interfered with our relationship. |
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| 345. When upset with me, my partner tries to pretend that everything is O.K., but it is easy to see that he/she is hurt by the sound of his/her voice. |
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| 346. I like to talk to my partner because of the joy I feel when I speak to him/her. |
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| 347. When in an argument with my partner, I can't seem to lower my tone of voice. |
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| 348. My partner has hit me. |
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| 349. My partner knows exactly what I mean when I am trying to make an important point. |
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| 350. My partner's lack of sympathy in wanting to listen or pay attention to me has interfered with our relationship. |
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| 351. When I am distraught over something, my partner is there to comfort and hold me. |
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| 352. I write special notes, letters or give cards to show my love. |
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| 353. I tell my partner things that will enhance his/her self-esteem. |
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| 354. My partner gives hugs and holds me. |
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| 355. My partner enjoys being close to me. |
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| 356. I give constructive feedback to my partner because I care. |
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| 357. My partner pays attention to my needs because he/she cares. |
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| 358. I understand my partner's point of view. |
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| 359. My partner thinks he/she understands the meaning behind my behavior, but he/she is often wrong. |
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| 360. I interrupt what my partner is saying during an argument so that I can get my point of view across. |
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| 361. I have thought about injuring my partner. |
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| 362. When my partner becomes angry he/she is still able to say words that are not harmful. |
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| 363. I pay attention to my partner's needs. |
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| 364. I feel that my partner listens to me full heartedly. |
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| 365. I find it hard to listen to my partner when I am angry. I focus on my own |
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| 366. My partner has positive feelings such as happiness, contentment and love towards me. |
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| 367. I have trouble verbalizing my thoughts. |
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| 368. I identify and verbalize my feelings to my partner. |
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| 369. I am actively and genuinely open to hear new ideas from my partner. |
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| 370. It doesn't bother me when my partner is feeling sad. |
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| 371. Even though I may disagree with what my partner is saying, I am still able to listen without interrupting. |
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| 372. My partner has a nonthreatening voice. |
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| 373. I have good feelings just being next to my partner. We don't even have to be doing anything interactive. |
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| 374. My partner is affectionate. |
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| 375. My partner touches me in a loving manner (nonsexual). |
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| 376. My partner doesn't know what to make of my behavior. |
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| 377. I know my partner means well, but for some reason I still become hurt. |
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| 378. My partner has conversations with me. |
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| 379. I make my partner laugh or feel good by the things that I say. |
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| 380. The softness of my partner's voice lets me know that he/she cares for me. |
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| 381. I can tell that my partner listens to me in a loving and compassionate way. |
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| 382. I attend to what my partner says verbally and to his/her body language. |
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| 383. My partner likes to hear what I have to say. |
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| 384. I have the capacity to pay attention to my partner's feelings even when he/she is angry. |
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| 385. During an argument I say things sarcastically. |
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| 386. When I am in an argument with my partner, I raise my voice. |
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| 387. My partner is annoyed with me, even though I do not do anything all that wrong. |
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| 388. My partner interprets my emotions accurately. |
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| 389. Even when I say the right things, I say it in a way that is not sincere. |
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| 390. I use good eye contact when my partner tells me something. |
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| 391. When my partner is talking and the television is on, I attend to the television rather than to what my partner is saying. |
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| 392. It is difficult for my partner to pay attention to me for a long time. |
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| 393. I hug my partner, but it doesn't mean much to me since I am so hurt by him/her. |
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| 394. My partner plans activities for us so that we can have fun together. |
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| 395. My partner has many ways of showing his/her love to me. |
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| 396. My partner listens to what I have to say. |
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| 397. I don't care what my partner does with his/her life. |
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| 398. My partner gives feedback to me on what I have said. |
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| 399. When my partner communicates to me verbally, I don't feel like he/she is saying the words with sincerity. |
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| 400. When I give flowers or a special gift to my partner, he/she is filled with love and joy. |
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